When your child feels overwhelmed
Helping your child settle when things feel big.
Let's slow this moment down
FOR YOU
When emotions are big, your child’s system is overwhelmed. This usually isn't a moment for problem-solving—start by slowing things down.
SAY TO YOUR CHILD
“This feels really big right now.”
“I’m right here with you.”
What might this feel like?
FOR YOU
Big reactions often come from feeling overloaded, scared, or out of control. You don’t need to get it exactly right—just gently name what it might feel like.
SAY TO YOUR CHILD
“Maybe this feels like too much.”
“Or maybe it just feels really hard right now.”
This feeling can be here.
FOR YOU
Trying to stop the feeling quickly can make it stronger.
Letting it be there—while staying close—helps their body begin to settle.
SAY TO YOUR CHILD
“It’s okay to feel this way.”
“I’m here with you while it passes.”
Let’s make this smaller.
FOR YOU
When everything feels big, even small things can feel overwhelming. Focus on one simple anchor—like a slow breath, sitting close, or just being still.
SAY TO YOUR CHILD
“Let’s just take a breath together.”
“We don’t have to do anything else right now.”
What's one small step?
FOR YOU
Once the intensity starts to come down, a small step can help your child feel steadier again. Keep it very simple and doable.
SAY TO YOUR CHILD
“When you’re ready, we can take a small step.”
“We can start with something easy.”
You don't have to do all of this at once. Even helping your child settle a little bit is enough.
You can come back to this in a middle of a moment with your child.